Christmas Arrangements for Children After Separation

When parents separate, understandably their main concern is the day-to-day arrangements for the children. What can often initially get overlooked is what arrangements will be put in place for the children during the school holidays. This can often be difficult to resolve, with one or both parents working and having to balance their limited annual leave with the number of school holidays the children have, as well as the various playdates and activities that the children wish to undertake.

With the Christmas school holidays approaching, here are some helpful hints and tips for parents to keep in mind when making holiday arrangements for the children with the other parent:

Be Organised

When making arrangements for the children to spend time with both parents during holidays there are many factors to take into account, such as:

• The amount of annual leave each parent has to take
• Both parents and children’s commitments and activities
• Playdates that the children may have already lined up

By looking to address arrangements for holidays well in advance, this can help reduce some of the stress and ensure that both parents and children know what the plan and routine will be for the holidays.

Parents may also wish to consider the following:

• Will the children spend Christmas Day with one parent, or will the day be divided between both parents and if so, how will that work?
• Will the arrangements for Christmas Day and Boxing Day alternate?
• Will special arrangements be made for the children to see their grandparents and wider family over the holiday?
• Will the children have bought a present for the other parent?
• Will the parents buy presents for the children together or separately? If separately then how will the parents ensure there isn’t duplication?

Holidays Abroad

Should one parent wish to take the children on holiday abroad then they will need the written consent of any other individual that has parental responsibility for the child travelling. There may also be additional forms or paperwork that the specific country may require to permit entry. 

To avoid stress and any issues at border control, each parent should ensure they have the necessary paperwork. We would also suggest that the travelling parent provides the other parent with information regarding the proposed holiday, including accommodation and flight details, and obtains written consent before booking the trip. The travelling parent and child do not wish to be uncertain as to whether they will be able to travel.  In the event that one parent refuses to provide their consent, then there is the option for the travelling parent to make an application to the court for a specific issue order to enable the child to travel.

What can parents do if they cannot reach an agreement between themselves?

If parents are unable to reach an agreement themselves regarding arrangements for the children during the holidays, then mediation is an amicable place to start, which can also be more cost-effective for the parents.

There is also the option for child-inclusive mediation which can be appropriate for older children who would like their wishes and feelings to be heard by both parents and for these to be factored into discussions. 

However, if parents are unable to reach an agreement either between themselves or through mediation then it may be possible to make an application to court for judicial intervention. It is important that you take legal advice from a family law expert before you make an application to Court.  

How Pinney Talfourd Can Help

At Pinney Talfourd, our experienced team can provide clear, practical advice to help you make suitable arrangements for your children during the holidays. Whether you need guidance on mediation, travel consent, or formalising an agreement, we’re here to support you every step of the way.

If you would like further information or to speak with one of our solicitors, please contact our Family Law team on 01708 511 000